What is flirting? According to Wikipedia flirting is “Flirting or coquetry is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person, or if done playfully, for amusement. In most cultures, it is socially disapproved for a person to make explicit sexual advances in public, but indirect or suggestive advances (i.e., flirting) may at times be considered acceptable.
Flirting usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater intimacy than the actual relationship between the parties would justify, though within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Double entendres, with one meaning more formally appropriate and another more suggestive, may be used. Body language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, open stances, proximity etc. Verbal communication of interest can include the vocal tone, such as pace, volume, intonation. Challenges (teasing, questions, qualifying, feigned uninterest) serve to increase tension, test intention and congruity.
Flirting behavior varies across cultures due to different modes of social etiquette such as how closely people should stand (proxemics), how long to hold eye contact, how much touching is appropriate and so forth. Nonetheless, some behaviors may be more universal. For example, ethologist Irenäus Eibl-Eibesfeldt found that in places as different as Africa and North America, women exhibit similar flirting behavior: a prolonged stare followed by a head tilt away with a little smile.”
Sounds complicated but it isn’t. It can be simple but then why do some men find it so hard to flirt with a woman. You don’t need to look like a model to get a girl to like you, but you do need to be confident. Women like to be flirted with you are more likely to get a girl to go out with you if you have a little flirt with her first. Here are a few tips on how you can flirt like a pro and build sexual tension in a discreet non sleazy way.
Start with a smile. Show her your friendly side. When you start with a smile it is a good way to test the waters and see if she smiles back. If she looks away with annoyance you can be fairly sure she isn’t the girl for you, but if she smiles at you then looks away before glancing back at you, she is seeing if you are still looking and is checking you out.
Make eye contact often, but don’t stare as it can get slightly unnerving. If she finds you looking at her just smile then look away. Then glance back at her direction.
Compliment her. All girls like to complemented, but be sincere. A girl can see right through a complement that is just used to get her into bed, now that is maybe what you are aiming for but you don’t want her to thing that is all you want.
If you are not sure if the feeling is mutual try getting into her personal space. Step towards her so you are practically touching if she doesn’t move back you can be fairly sure she likes being close to you.
Gently touch her while talking to her. On her back or forearm are good places to start. But don’t keep your hand there for two long, just long enough for her to feel the tension building but not so she feels uneasy.
Show off what you’ve got. If you have a six pack or are well endowed, let her take a sneaky peek by accident, but don’t make it obvious it needs to feel naughty.
Use your body language, when talking to her, position your whole body in here direction and don’t cross your arms in front of your chest or fidget. Stand confident and give her your full attention.
Don’t flirt with all the girls, if you like one particular girl flirting with other girls is not going to get you any brownie points. Show her that no other girl compares to her.
Share a secret with them, girls love to feel that you trust them enough to confide with them.
Have an inside joke, like the secret having a joke just between the two of you can bring you closer. If it’s a little naughty even better.
Flirting is not rocket science and it can work whether you are a geek or a sports person. So give it ago today try flirting with that girl you’ve had your eye on.
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